I always thought of myself as one of those girls who would dread turning 40 but I’m not. I started to fall in love with myself in my 30s and at 39, I’m finally in love with me. Loving yourself sounds like an easy concept but it took work. I had anger issues when I was a teenager and finally worked through them in my late-20s. My anger stemmed from having strict parents combined with them moving away from our family, being a latchkey kid and growing up in badass Long Beach, CA in the 90s.
Reading The Four Agreements changed my life. It is simple: be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions and always do your best.
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” -Lao Tzu
I made big changes by working on me. I was the problem. I was negative, I didn’t smile. I forgot how to have fun. I kicked toxic friends to the curb, started to communicate better and be honest with myself and others.
When you grow up, do things you want to do. I finally took photography classes in my 30s. Being in the darkroom was like therapy.
Give love and get love.
You need friendships that bring out the best in you.
And cake. You need cake.
You don’t have to wait till 39. Celebrate you and always love yourself!