Hello 39!


Hello 39!

I always thought of myself as one of those girls who would dread turning 40 but I’m not.  I started to fall in love with myself in my 30s and at 39, I’m finally in love with me.  Loving yourself sounds like an easy concept but it took work.  I had anger issues when I was a teenager and finally worked through them in my late-20s.  My anger stemmed from having strict parents combined with them moving away from our family, being a latchkey kid and growing up in badass Long Beach, CA in the 90s.

Reading The Four Agreements changed my life.  It is simple: be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions and always do your best.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” -Lao Tzu

I made big changes by working on me.  I was the problem.  I was negative, I didn’t smile.  I forgot how to have fun.  I kicked toxic friends to the curb, started to communicate better and be honest with myself and others.

San Antonio, 2014.

When you grow up, do things you want to do.  I finally took photography classes in my 30s.  Being in the darkroom was like therapy.


Disneyland, 2010.

I bought a book for my birthday.  You get older and make conscious decisions to buy stuff that has purpose or meaning.  Art and culture surround our home for us and our children.    IMG_20140730_155000

Give love and get love.


You need friendships that bring out the best in you.

Miami, 2014.

And cake. You need cake.



You don’t have to wait till 39.  Celebrate you and always love yourself!

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  1. I loved this post and I’m currently trying not to cry. From meeting you, you would never know that you weren’t always the warm, fun and giving person that you are. I love that you are honest and open about the journey and the work that you did and how happy it’s made you.

    I’m proud to know you Xenia and for what it’s worth, 40+ ain’t bad at all (save for the lack of energy sometimes).

    Enjoy 39 and every day afterwards!


  2. Happy birthday, Xenia!
    I would have never guessed you were 39, you look fantastic! Happiness looks good on ya 🙂
    I’m so glad that I was able to meet you and I’m looking forward to the next time we get to hang out!
    Here’s to an awesome 39!

  3. LOL your cake is too funny. I certainly need to work on not making assumptions and taking things personally these are problem areas for me personally.

  4. What a great post. You have an awesome smile and a great outlook on life. congrats on being happy and on love with YOU!! and Happy belated Birthday!

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